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Tip 1

Make sure all of your email invitees check their email inboxes frequently, and that you're using the address they use most frequently, in case they have more than one email account. Be prepared to follow up by phone if you do not hear back from a guest.

Tip 2

Be familiar with the options, such as: Do you wish for your guests to see the entire guest list? Do you want to keep their email information private? This is especially important if you are arranging a party for friends who may not know each other yet, or other mixed settings.

Tip 3

Be sure to include all important details in the Evite: the location (and directions), dress code, reason for the party, and RSVP instructions. Be sure to also include a personal message.

Tip 4

Proofread, proofread, proofread!

Tip 5

Follow up two or three days in advance with a reminder email. Since your guests won't have a paper copy to stick to the fridge, they'll appreciate a little note in their inbox so they don't forget.

Social Deadlines

Aim to: Welcome the new person as soon as you hear she has arrived. Don't wait until you've been in a meeting together or exchanged e-mails, says Jill Bremer, an executive image coach in Oak Park, Illinois.
If you are late: Apologize for being inconsiderate and then show interest in her background, ask how she likes the new job, or invite her to lunch.
Tip: As a company veteran, you'll have an easier time making the first move because the newcomer is probably overwhelmed and can't remember whom she has met.

Welcoming New Neighbors

Aim to: Stop by within a few weeks of their arrival, says Millie Downing, author of the Miss Conduct column in the Boston Globe Magazine. If they're busy unpacking, just say hello and visit later.
If you are late: It's never too late, but if the "new" neighbors have been around long enough to be heading up the block association and you still haven't met, you might ask a mutual friend to make the introductions.
Tip: Prepare a file of useful local information to bring over. Downing suggests delivery menus, area maps, event calendars, and the names and numbers of the best dry cleaner and plumber.

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Manners at the Table

Elbow Placement
Elbows on the table are fine when you&rsquore not eating. What you don&rsquot want to do is use your elbow as a fulcrum for bringing food to your mouth. Wrists on the table are always OK.

Using the Right Fork
Work from the outside in: salad fork to dessert fork.

Using the Right Bread Plate
Think BMW. Your bread plate is on your left meal plate, in the middle water, on the right.

Digging In
Wait until everyone has been served or the host gives you the green light. If there&rsquos a large number of people or a buffet, you can begin eating when you get your food. At weddings and in other situations where there's preset food, wait until the host gives you the OK to start.

Passing Food
For the first time around the table, dishes should be passed counterclockwise so that the right hand is free for serving. (Sorry, southpaws.) If you&rsquore asked to pass salt or pepper, pass both.

If you can get the item you need without fully extending your arm, go for it. Otherwise ask to have it passed.

Leaving the Table
When you need to step away, say, &ldquoExcuse me. I&rsquoll be right back.&rdquo No one needs to know the details. Leave your napkin loosely on the table to the left of your plate, not on your seat.

What would emily do?

I get asked etiquette questions a lot! Probably because I have the Emily Post Etiquette book bible in my office. So this week’s Wedding Wednesday is all about what Emily (and her family) says and what I think. I know not everyone will agree, but my rule of thumb is you HOST a wedding and INVITE guests so think of your wedding day like a party at your home – how do you treat your guests? And if you are a guest… Act like one. Dress for the occasion and RSVP! Here are the five most asked etiquette questions I get:

#1. The big debate – A Cash Bar:

Meg: When you come to my home I do not charge $5 for a drink so why should I when I invite you to my wedding? I know it is expensive to offer an open bar but I think it’s something you should budget for, even if it’s just offering white and red wine and beer. Spend less on your decor and treat your guests like guests. If an open bar is not an option then at least give your wedding party, helpers and family free drinks – they worked hard to make your day look good. Finally, if you do plan to have a cash bar, be sure to let your guests know so they can bring cash and don’t be surprised or upset if your guests are tailgating in the parking lot. I’ve been to more cash bar weddings then open bar weddings so I think I am loosing this debate.

Emily: “Just imagine being invited to a dinner party at which the host or hostess handed guests a bill. You’d be shocked. A wedding is no different the couple and their families are hosts, not restaurateurs. You might cut costs by serving simple hors d’oeuvres, wedding cake, and nonalcoholic punch at an afternoon reception planning a home reception to eliminate the expense of a rented hall or hotel or limiting the number of guests you invite. You don’t have to have a bar if you want champagne, you could limit it to one or two glasses per guest for toasting. There are many ways to stage a beautiful wedding on a tight budget, but charging guests isn’t one of them.”

#2. The invite:

Meg:If you are inviting someone to your wedding, they’re allowed to bring a guest so account for that. If you are inviting a family with children and the children are over the age of sixteen, they can bring a guest. If you are inviting a couple but don’t want to invite their children, don’t put the children’s names on the invite. That being said, if you receive a wedding invitation and it does not say ” To Mr. and Mrs. Smith and family” or “To Mr. and Mrs. Smith and Johnny” then assume Johnny is not invited. Don’t ask if Johnny can come. If you are inviting people to your wedding, make them feel like it is a special occasion – avoid Facebook invites or a mass emails. Your wedding day is a special day and by making your guests feel special, they’ll be excited to attend. I think the invite is the book cover or wine label of the event and personally, I judge books by their covers and wine by their labels.

Emily: When your guests receive an invitation to your wedding, they receive an impression of your preparation. The invitations convey the style, tone, formality and details of your upcoming the event. They also reflect your personal sense of style. As always, it is important to remember when formatting them that consideration for your guests is a primary concern.

Wedding E-vitations are practical, thrifty, and green. And if those were the only criteria for sending electronic wedding invitations, they’d be used by more couples. Consider these points:

  • Do all your guests use email and check it regularly? This may be the case for your younger guests, but not for your Great-Aunt. Some services also require Internet access to view and respond to the invitation.
  • Will it get delivered? While posted snail mail has been known to go astray, emails can fall victim to misspelled addresses and spam blockers.
  • Is it personal and special enough? A wedding invitation is one of the most personal invitations issued, and an electronic version may not convey that sentiment.
  • Will it make responding easier or more timely? Not necessarily. The good guest will respond right away, but for the rest of the world, once the email notice falls below the screen, it may be out of sight, out of mind.

On the plus side, their fun factor makes them great for a wedding shower or attendant’s party.

Guests, respect your invitation. Do not ask your host or hostess if you can bring a date or your children. The invitation will be addressed to the people invited. If you may bring a guest, your invitation will read “Mr. John Phelps and guest.” If your children are invited, they will either receive their own personal invitations or their names will be listed under yours on the envelope. This is not the time to question your host’s decision, to argue or to beg for an exception. And, please, do not add their names to a reply card or show up with them anyway!

#3. RSVP:

Meg:If you want people to RSVP then give them an RSVP to respond to. Don’t set high expectations that people will RSVP online or by email. When I get an invite in the mail with a RSVP, I am 80% more excited about the wedding. It’s a fact. As a guest, reply as soon as you can even if they give you a few months.

Emily: “Response or reply cards are just for the reception to give you an accurate head count. They are not used for ceremony-only invitations. The card and envelope are engraved or printed in the same style and paper stock as the invitation, but in a smaller size. Often they are included as part of an invitation set. It’s a good idea to pre-address and stamp the reply envelope to make it as easy as possible for guests to RSVP via mail. If you would like to receive replies via email or telephone, that’s fine — just include the necessary information on the response card and skip the envelope. It’s also a good idea to include a “reply by” date, usually two to three weeks before the wedding. This gives hosts time to follow up with guests who have yet to reply and to give accurate head counts to wedding vendors, such as caterers.

RSVP is French for “please respond” (répondez s’il vous plaît). Your most important obligation as a guest is to respond to the invitation immediately, especially if you are unable to attend. At the very least, it allows your host and hostess enough time to give an accurate count to the caterer. There is usually a card to return with your reply. If not, you may write a formal reply or a note indicating your intention.”

#4. Gifts – registries and favours:

Meg:You can register to wherever you want… just don’t tell your guests on the invite. It is the responsibility of the guests to ask your wedding party or family member if you’ve registered. If you’d prefer cash over gifts, cross your fingers. Favours are less common these days and honestly, I am all for a couple making a donation on the guests behalf to a charity or offering an open bar instead. Regardless of what you get or don’t get from a guest, you must send a thank you card to all of your guest for attending.

As a guest, if you accept an invitation to a wedding, you should give a gift to the couple (and have one year to do so). You should not feel obliged to stick to their registry. I actually dislike registries and prefer coming up with my own idea. The general rule is your gift should be at least the value of your seat at the wedding. Meaning, if they’re paying $50/plate, A couple should spend $100 on a gift. I know this is a regional debate as I almost fell off my chair when someone at work in Montreal told me they generally spend $200-300 on a wedding gift.

Emily: Don’t include registry or gift information with your invitation. It is in poor taste to insert a list of places where the bride and groom are registered or a checklist of the things they want and don’t want. Contrary to popular myth, the happy couple does not have a year’s grace period. All thank you notes should be written within three months of the receipt of the gift. Ideally, a response should be written on the day you receive a wedding gift. If that’s not possible, set a daily goal. It’s a lot easier to write three or four notes a day than to have to write a hundred notes in a month after the wedding!

Ten Dos and Don’ts of Thank-You Notes

  1. Do personalize your notes and make reference to the person as well as the gift.
  2. Do remember that a gift should be acknowledged with the same courtesy and generous spirit in which it was given.
  3. Do be enthusiastic, but don’t gush. Avoid saying a gift is the most beautiful thing you have ever seen unless you really mean it.
  4. Don’t send form letters or cards with printed messages and just your signature don’t use email or post a generic thank you on your wedding web site in lieu of a personal note.
  5. Do promptly acknowledge the receipt of shipped gifts by sending a note right away or calling and following up with a written note in a day or two.
  6. Don’t mention that you plan to return a gift or that you are dissatisfied in any way.
  7. Don’t tailor your note to the perceived value of the gift no one should receive a perfunctory note.
  8. Do refer to the way you will use a gift of money. Mentioning the amount is optional.
  9. Don’t include wedding photos or use photo cards if it will delay sending the note.
  10. Don’t use being late as an excuse not to write. Even if you are still sending notes after your first anniversary, keep writing!

If you are invited to the ceremony and/or reception, you should send a gift, whether you are attending or not. Generally, gifts are sent to the bride in advance of the wedding. In some localities, gifts are brought to the reception and placed on a special table. If you hear from family that the couple would prefer a charitable donation—as in the case of an older couple or an encore wedding—please respect their wishes. If you receive an announcement after the wedding has taken place, you may send a gift if you wish, but you have no obligation to do so. It is nice to acknowledge the announcement with a card or a note expressing your best wishes.

“Wedding favors are a charming custom but are in no way required or expected. Don’t let a retailer pressure you into an unnecessary expense. If giving favors is meaningful to your family heritage and if it is not adding a financial burden to what the bride’s family is already providing, by all means go ahead. After all, its your wedding!”

#5. What not to wear:

Meg: Is it a Nova Scotia thing to not give a damn? I often think so. I dream about going to a British wedding just so I can wear a fancy hat! A fault to being Canada’s Ocean Playground is people treat summer weddings like a day at a playground. Shorts, tees, flip flops and hoodies are a guarantee. Obviously, if the invite says ‘dress casual’ or ‘bring a sweater, it may get chilly’, then by all means, do so. But if there is no mention of attire, then put a little effort into your wardrobe or at least iron your cargo shorts.

Emily: “People see weddings as an opportunity to dress up and look their very best. Guests’ clothing should be appropriate to an occasion that is, at its heart, a serious ceremony and also often one that takes place in a house of worship. The wedding invitation and the time of the wedding will be your best guide to its formality. Other factors will influence your dress choice:

  • The nature of the service: Is it secular or religious? Does the religion or the culture of the bridal couple require head coverings? Would bare shoulders and arms or open-toed shoes be offensive?
  • Local custom: some parts of the country are more conservative than others.
  • Clothing that’s too skimpy or overtly provocative.
  • Costumes, except when you’ve been expressly asked to dress to the wedding theme.
  • Blue jeans and T-shirts.
  • Any jewelry that calls attention to your own faith when attending a service of another faith.
  • Baseball or sports caps large fashion hats that block other guests’ view of the ceremony.
  • Casual shoes or boots with formal or semiformal outfits.
  • Sunglasses worn indoors (except for a legitimate medical reason).
  • Boutonnieres or corsages unless supplied by the hosts.

Some of this may be obvious but I’ve been to weddings where guests who RSVP’d No have shown up. I’ve been to weddings without my wallet and surprise… a cash bar. I’ve seen jeans and tailgating (okay, I’ve tailgated) but I have also enjoyed super classy events and great parties. I don’t think you need to follow all of these rules but they are certainly great to think about before you make decisions on budgets and planning.

Please let me know if you agree or disagree and I’d love to hear more etiquette stories and questions!

psst. If you like what you’re reading, please subscribe and share. xomeg

10 New Holiday Etiquette Rules You Should Know

Good-bye to the holiday newsletter &mdash hello to endless social media updates? Not quite. Discover new twists on old rules that make celebrating the season.

Some holiday traditions such as trimming the tree or lighting the menorah haven't changed much. But almost every other long-held custom has evolved. Shopping for gifts? Do it online in your PJs. Sending a card to your BFF? Done in ten seconds from your smartphone. "What doesn't change is our need for kindness and courtesy," says Cynthia Grosso, etiquette expert at the Charleston School of Protocol and Etiquette, Inc. in Charleston, SC. "Even in our fast-paced world, good manners matter because they make people feel valued, which makes you feel good, too." Here are the new holiday etiquette rules you must know (don't worry they're more relaxed than the old ones!).

1. It's okay to send e-greeting cards.

"Many people send online cards because they want to be green and save time and money," says Lizzie Post, great-great-granddaughter of Emily Post and co-author of Emily Post's Etiquette, 18 th Edition. "There's no reason you can't do it, though most of us still love receiving cards by mail." It's fine to split your list, too, sending traditional cards to some people (such as your Internet-averse grandma) and e-cards to others. But avoid sending bulk emails, which may end up in junk mail folders (and feel less personal, anyway).

2. You can skip sending a holiday newsletter.

"It used to be standard to tuck these into cards, but this tradition is waning, perhaps because we're updated year-round via technology," says Rosalinda Randall, an etiquette consultant based in San Francisco, CA. If you do send a newsletter, keep it upbeat and brief (one to two pages max), not overly detailed (mention you had surgery, for instance, but not your difficult recovery) and send only to people who are genuinely interested in your family's news. You can also send it as an email attachment or a Facebook note in which you tag the people you'd like to read it.

3. Online invitations are okay for many holiday events.

"Evite and similar services are fine for casual parties," says Randall. "It also makes it easy for guests to respond immediately." If your event is formal or you want to make it feel more elegant, send invitations the old-fashioned way. "Getting something hand-addressed in the mail makes people feel special and sets the tone for your party," says Randall.

4. You can toast with water and without clinking glasses.

"It's a misconception that it's impolite to toast with water," says Post. If someone proposes a toast and you don't drink, "lift a glass of water or whatever's on the table in front of you," says Post. And did you know any guest can make a toast? Just keep it brief, thank the host for bringing everyone together, raise your glass and sip. As for the final step, clinking glasses is fun but optional actually, it's never done at super-formal events, says Randall.

5. A bottle of wine isn't the only good hostess gift.

Bringing a small present whenever you go to someone's house is still a good idea, says Post. But that token of gratitude doesn't have to be vino. If you know your hosts well, bring something that suits their interests, such as an upscale bottle of olive oil for cooks and a set of herb seeds for gardeners. If you don't know them well, opt for chocolates, jams, candles, decorative soaps, cocktail napkins or small serving pieces they're not likely to own, like canapé forks. No need to spend a lot, though. "It's not about the price. It's about showing your gratitude for being invited and for your host's hard work," says Grosso.

6. Regifting is okay in some circumstances.

While this practice causes some etiquette experts to cringe&mdash"You're supposed to accept a gift with the generosity of spirit in which it was given. Regifting kills that," says Post&mdashothers admit there are ways to pull it off tactfully. For one, the item must be brand new. For another, you can't pass a present to someone who knows the original giver. You also must remove all traces of tags and cards. Finally, never regift something that was personalized or handmade. On the other hand, it's fine to give away a duplicate or wrong-sized item if you come clean by saying something like: "I received this as a gift, and I already have one/can't use it. Would you like it?" Just don't pawn it off as something you bought especially for that person.

7. You don't have to rush out to buy something for someone who's unexpectedly given you a gift.

Almost everyone has been in the awkward position of receiving a present when you don't have one for the giver. "Be gracious, say 'thank you' and leave it at that," suggests Randall. "Don't claim you forgot your gift for her at home or it's on back order. The person will know you're lying and that'll hurt her feelings even more." Instead, write a thank-you note and pick up a little something for her next event, like her birthday or a gathering at her house.

8. Be selective about what you share on social media during holiday-party season.

A well-meaning "thanks for the great party last night" or a photo of the revelry posted on Facebook or Twitter can upset people. "What if your host didn't invite someone and doesn't want them to know there was a party? Or you embarrass someone with certain photos?" says Post. "It's not appropriate to scoop your host's event. She may not want to feel like you're a roving reporter." Besides, isn't it better to live in the moment and just enjoy the party?

9. It's fine to say "Merry Christmas" or "Happy Chanukah."

While "happy holidays" is never wrong, most etiquette experts agree that celebration-specific wishes are acceptable because they're "simply greetings of the season," says Randall. "Most people will respond in a positive way, even those who don't celebrate these holidays." But if anyone's offended by your greeting, offer a quick apology and move on.

10. A handwritten thank-you card is the best way to show your appreciation.

This rule is so old, it's new again. "These cards make the recipient feel good because you took the extra care to write it," says Grosso. Keep your message to a few sentences: Thank the person for the gift, mention how you'll use it or how thoughtful she is and sign off. If you open a gift in front of someone and thank them in person, it's not necessary to write a note, though it's always a kind response. Emailed thank-you notes are okay if it's your main form of communication with that person, but nothing beats an old-fashioned card.

Organizing Group Get-togethers Without a Designated Host

"Encore showers" or the small luncheon you describe can be fun for both the mother-to-be and her friends. Because no one is hosting and attendees are expected to pay their own way, invitations aren't mailed. You'll need to make it clear that the event is a group effort and that you are only the organizer, not the hostess. In this case, the phone works best. "Jess, a bunch of us were thinking of treating Carolyn to lunch before the baby arrives. It will be at noon at Chez Harry on August 4th. We're planning to split the bill and cover Carolyn's meal." The important thing is to make sure each person is aware of the payment arrangements ahead of time, as you don't want anyone to be surprised at the event.

Thank You Notes Required?

Each time I entertain, do I anxiously await a thank you note from my guests? No.

When I receive a “thank you” in the mail, or even a phone call or an email the next day, it always comes as a surprise, because I’m not expecting it. I savor the words and it’s so nice to read or hear these words because it brings back great memories of a fantastic time shared with friends.

While growing up, my mother read Good Housekeeping* regularly. I remember as a child thumbing through the magazine and reading Emily Post’s column. So now I ask myself, “What would Emily say?”

I looked up the etiquette for sending a “thank you note” after a dinner party. Peggy Post (Emily’s daughter) says:

Neither a gift sent later nor a note is necessary for a dinner-party invitation your verbal thanks when you leave is enough. A phone call the next day – or even a note – to say how much you enjoyed the evening is always welcome.

I have several stacks of notes that I have saved. A few years ago I purchased a ring to hole punch each one and keep as a reminder of the importance of entertaining. It’s wonderful to read back through what people write, how they were touched, and what specifically meant a lot to them. Some day one of these friends will be gone, and it’s my little way of having a personal keepsake from that person.

A reader wrote me this week about kids and thank you notes:

How do you handle thank-you notes? That is my biggest challenge with kids!

My daughter recently had 14 girls over for her birthday. What I have done in the past is taken a group picture at each party. As soon as I download the pictures on to my computer I pick the best group picture and copy it right away on colored paper, 14 times! Then Abby will write her own personal note, sign and send (or hand deliver to save a stamp).

Boys are a little harder. I stock up on Dollar Store thank you notes and sometimes it takes a little extra nudging for them to complete the task – but it gets done!

My friend Hoppi is going to help me teach my Balcony Girls about letter/note writing. She is so gifted with words and even though most of my girls have already learned this ‘art’ from their mothers, it never hurts to have some fun with it on a wintry, cold Balcony Girls day! With email, cell phones and just the hurriedness that we all feel in daily living, I believe that thank you notes are an essential touch to gratitude.

Do I expect them? No. But I sure love it when I get one.

* Speaking of Good Housekeeping, check out the article on pg. 243 in October’s edition by blogger, Shannon, from Rocks In My Dryer .

(Top photo: I couldn’t help but post another beautiful picture from a few weeks ago – Golden Delicious apples cooking down before the applesauce process ! Bottom photo: a few of my keepsake thank you notes)

If you get a minute, tune in to Family Life Radio tomorrow (Friday, Oct. 12) and you’ll hear Paul talking about his new release, No More Jellyfish, Chickens, or Wimps! It’s a great interview with Dennis Rainey!

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originally published October 11, 2007 &mdash last updated January 11, 2010 // 10 Comments

How to Host a Memorable Awards Show Party

Be host to your own awards show party with these creative, theme-appropriate ideas. Transform your living room into an unforgettable media room, and give your friends a classy, entertainment-filled night that they'll never forget.

Formal Red and Gold Movie Theater with Ornate Details

This 18-seat movie theater takes viewers back to the golden age of film with a red and gold color scheme that exudes elegance. Ornate molding and banisters combines with a red theater curtain adding to the classic feel.

Photo by: PHX Architecture

  • Customize your invites to be theme-specific. Instead of printed invites, you can send an email to all of your friends. Evite has several theme-appropriate award show party email templates that you can use – perfect for the last minute soirée.
  • Suggest that guests wear their red carpet best to get in the spirit of the occasion (it’s a good time to roll out all of those never-thought-you’d-wear-it-again party and bridemaids dresses). Or encourage them to dress in an look from years' past, like that infamous swan dress worn by Björk in 2001, Katy Perry's 2011 angel wings, or anything Lady Gaga.
  • Roll out a red carpet. If the weather is nice, lay it outdoors leading up to your home. If it’s snowy or rainy, place it right inside the entryway. Good news for you last-minute planners: Red carpets are readily available for a good price, and you can even overnight yourself a red carpet from Amazon.

New Year's Eve Gold Glitter Photo Backdrop

Simple gold glitter paper cut into large circles makes a cute photo booth backdrop for New Year's Eve party.

Photo by: Nicole Mlakar /

Nicole Mlakar /

  • For a full red carpet experience, set up a camera on a tripod and let your guests pose in front of a photo backdrop. Looking for backdrop ideas? Gold garland always looks great on camera. Balloons to match the color theme of the party are fun too. Create a flat, classic backdrop using white paper with repeating text. Search online for logos for the event to customize for the occasion, or just use plain type on a white background. Avoid printing on plain printer paper, and take the artwork to an office supply store to have two 24" x 90" engineer prints produced (when printed as black and white, large scale prints can be really affordable). Hang them side by side, and when your guests receive their photos they'll always remember where and when they were snapped.
  • Decorate indoors, too. Create mood lighting, and stick to classic color themes like black and white, red and black, gold-gold-gold, and lots of glitter for a glam, Hollywood Regency effect. Keep decorations easy with bunches of helium-filled balloons, run digital picture frames with images of celebrities from old award shows, and make food and drinks accessible right in the same room you'll be viewing the show. A buffet can be dressed up to present food, and a bartender can be hired to serve your guests.

Black and White Hollywood Regency Lounge

In episode five of HGTV Design Star season seven, the contestants were asked to create party lounges that evoked the designs of iconic eras. Contestant Britany's lounge exudes the glamor of Hollywood regency style. She used a classic black, gold and white color palette with bold graphic touches.

Bowel movement basics: What makes you poop?

What makes you poop might be different than what makes someone else poop. However, for many people, caffeine is a trigger for bowel movements. Caffeine increases levels of cholecystokinin, which can regulate bowel movement and help with fecal elimination. There are cases where caffeinated drinks don&rsquot seem to work for a person who is constipated, but consuming spicy food does. This is due to the fact that spicy foods contain capsaicin, a substance that irritates the bowels and leads to movement.

Experts say that one of the best things a person can do when they are constipated is drink a lot of water. Since constipation is related to dehydration in the colon, plenty of water is needed.

When a person is constipated, multiple factors can be at play, but the bottom line is that regular bowel evacuation is vital since we need to eliminate toxins from our body. Failure to do so can lead to more serious health issues, including toxicity, bacteria growth in the gut, or diverticulitis (bowel pockets).

Dixie's Guide for Your Handwritten Thank You Notes

With the holiday season now behind us, thank you note obligations can seem daunting. But our Southern mothers raised us to know that this form of etiquette was never to be overlooked. We were taught to always acknowledge our thanks in a written form.

Our mothers’ opinion on this matter was not unfounded. The queen of etiquette herself also mandates the handwritten note: According to The Emily Post Institute, the “the handwritten thank-you note speaks volumes simply as a medium and sends the message that you care enough to invest yourself personally in acknowledging another.”

So if thank you notes are still lingering on your January to-do list, please allow us to share a few of our guaranteed-to-make-them-smile thank you note tips.

  • Designate a Special Spot - Create a cozy nook in your home specifically devoted to your note writing. Our Creative Director, Holly Hollon’s beautiful secretary desk (pictured above) has inspired us to do this very thing:

Last Christmas my mother gave me a secretary. I have an office in my home, but it is full to the brim with art supplies and my work, my address list and stationery would easily get lost in there and delay in me writing thank you notes. I filled the secretary in my living room with my stationery and all the things needed to write a note. This helped me in having a designated spot to pen notes promptly, consider a special place in your home to store your stationery, a nice pen and stamps.

  • Thoughtfully Choose Your Stationery - While we certainly have a plethora of lovely personalized options available here, the possibilities are endless! Have fun with your notes, so that they reflect your personality in the design. Also, we have learned so much from Holly Holden’s take on the traditional approach to thank you notes from her tutorial here. Fun fact. Holly designates the fold-over stationery card, rather than the the flat note card, as the most formal note.
  • Date It - Etiquette Expert Lee Cordone, of DoSayGive, says to always include this when you are writing notes you think someone may keep.
  • Greeting - This may seem completely obvious, but check and re-check the spelling of your recipient’s name. You do not want a misspelling to be their first impression of your note!
  • A First Line Challenge - Holly Holden, in the same video mentioned above, challenges thank you note writers to never begin the first sentence with the word “I.” She says it presumes you are more important than the person to whom you are writing. So we encourage you go beyond the formulaic “thank you so much for xyz” to creatively express how much the gift meant to you and why. We always love to read how our gift is being used in thank you notes we receive.
  • Make Your Recipient Smile - We borrowed this advice from the talented Kalee Baker of Kalee Baker Events. She is a firm believer in the power of a well-written thank you note: " Each day is a gift, so always include a memory or leave them with a kind, positive thought. "
  • In Closing - Depending on the depth of your relationship with your recipient, “Sincerely” is always a safe option, but we also love to use “Best” or “With Love.”
  • Late? - Don’t Fret! - We are of the mindset that a late thank you note is always much better than no note at all!

Still overwhelmed by the long list of thank you notes that may even include note writing for your children and your husband? We love this idea mentioned on The Emily Post Institute of getting your entire family involved in the thank you note process:

The smallest (ages 4-6) drew pictures of their gifts, and Mom and Dad added dictated captions and thank you’s. The 7-8 year-olds wrote one or two sentences, practicing new writing skills. The 9-and-olders were able to work more or less independently. Meanwhile, Mom and Dad helped with spelling words and addressing, and, in the quiet moments, wrote a few notes themselves. When everyone was finished, there was hot cider and banana bread. The kids were involved, the notes were done and the family had time to be together and talk about their holiday, friends and relatives.

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